June Newsletter

Essential Workers
June 2020 Newsletter
Our Final Expansion
Center for Solace has just completed our final expansion and the addition of 6 new therapists. As before, our Clinical Director Dr. Becky Rudd has handpicked the therapists based on a similar relational philosophy for working with clients, dedication to evidence-based practices and a lifetime of learning, and passion to retain the client-centered therapeutic approach. We have a remarkable team of therapists who are personally driven to do the best for each client. Please check out our Facebook page to learn more about our new therapists.
Covid-19 Pandemic and Mental Health Awareness
As we move into our 13th week of the Covid-19 pandemic, the initial shock and anxiety has waned giving way to impatience and hopelessness. We are prepared to support our clients through this difficult time with continued use of telehealth and the slow re-introduction of in-person sessions. Our staff have been thoroughly trained to ensure a safe environment for clients as we move into the new normal. Here is a brief summary of the changes we have enacted to ensure your safe return to the office.
  • Staff will have their temperature taken and are screened at the beginning of each shift for symptoms of covid-19
  • Visitors to the Center fill out a form to attest asymptomatic presentation then have their temperature recorded. We collect contact information should this be needed in the event of an exposure.
  • Hand sanitizer is plentiful throughout the Center
  • Staff and visitors have adequate hand washing stations and supplies.
  • Masks are available for staff and visitors
  • Signs are visibly posted encouraging use of masks when 6 feet distance cannot be maintained
  • The Center undergoes a rigorous cleaning of all high-touch areas at least 2 times per day
  • Doors to the Center remain open to avoid exposure to unnecessary high-touch points
  • Staff have undergone additional training to ensure the health and safety of clients
  • We continue to offer telehealth to the majority of clients
While we do not know how or when the covid-19 pandemic will cease, we do know that we must come to live with it somehow. Our therapists are trained in a variety of therapy techniques to assist clients in finding happiness, confidence and hopefulness during these most uncertain times.
Enjoy this article? You would enjoy therapy with Jenn Joralemon (see below)
The Pandemic from A Meaning and Purpose Perspective: A Reset
For many of us, the covid-19 pandemic is one of the longest periods of sustained global uncertainty we might ever face. On one hand the unfamiliar tragedy paired with continuous exposure has allowed us to become desensitized to the full effect of our situation. On the other, the resilience of the human condition cushions us from the hardships forward in what is likely a new normal. This article will explore the hidden meaning and purpose the pandemic has uncovered.
Featured Therapist: Jenn Joralemon MS, LMHC, NCC
Jenn’s introspective and compassionate style driven by an existential-humanistic lens helps clients uncover truths about themselves that have otherwise been hidden. She helps clients get to know themselves on a deeper level. 
Jenn’s areas of treatment specialty:
  • Grief and Loss
  • Anxiety and death anxiety
  • Life transitions
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February Newsletter

February Newsletter Prepared by Taylor Summers, EWU Undergrad Intern


Increasing the Love in the Relationship Bank Account

By Becky Rudd PhD, LMFT, LMHC, RPT-S, NCC

Drs. Julie and John Gottman are the founders of the Gottman Method Couple Therapy, an evidence-based approach to working with couples who struggle with relationship problems. The Gottman Method is most notable for identifying, labeling and changing destructive communication patterns and can predict, with a 97% accuracy, whether or not that couple will be together in five years after listening to a newly married couple have a perpetual argument. The various communication patterns and strategies couples use can erode even the best relationship. While a trained Gottman Method Couple Therapist can help you and your partner identify your pattern and eliminate these toxic communication strategies, couples can immediately begin helping their relationship by adding love coins to the relationship bank account. Gottman found that “bids” for attention, affection and intimacy (e.g., asking for a hug, starting up a conversation, holding hands, doing something you know your partner likes) put a love coin in the relationship bank account. His research found that couples who had 5 positive bids or interactions accepted for every 1 negative bid or interaction appeared to insulate or protect the relationship from negativity. Furthermore, these couples were more likely to give each other the benefit of the doubt instead of assuming the worst about their partner and saw their partner as a teammate versus a adversary. Consequently, relationships where couples experience 8 negative interactions for every 1 positive bid or interaction not only experienced relationship quality demise, loss of connection, seeing the other as an enemy, went into self-preservation over the good of the relationship, but also individually experienced more physical and mental illness, higher stress rates, and poorer work performance. In other words, when your relationship bank account is empty and the relationship has begun drawing from the individual reserves of each partner, the relationship is on life support. However, you can begin adding love back to the relationship bank account by doing nice things for your partner (even if they don’t see it that way). Love coins in the relationship bank account do earn interest and the more you put in, eventually the more benefit you will see. So, do something special (big or small) for your partner this Valentine’s day and a concerted daily effort to keep doing something loving for your partner every day can make a world of difference. So, for every negative interaction you have make sure there are 5 positive ones to add back into your bank.

Gottman, J. M., & Silver, N. (1999). The seven principles for making marriage work. New York: Three Rivers Press


10 Tips for a Strong & Healthy Relationship

Recommended by  Keneesha Lloyd, MS, LMHC, SUDP

The article, “10 tips for a Strong & Healthy Relationship” by Dr. Sue Johnson, the founder of Emotionally Focused Therapy an evidence-based practice for couples therapy, that has some great suggestions to help improve your relationship this Valentines day:

  1. We are born to need each other
  2. In love relationships emotional hurt is a mixture of anger, sadness, but most of all, fear.
  3. The strongest among us are those who can reach for others.
  4. Relationships can survive partners being very difficult.
  5. There is no perfect lover.
  6. The fights that matter are never about sex, money, or the kids.
  7. We only have two ways to deal with the vulnerability of love when we can’t connect.
  8. A loving relationship is the best recipe for a long and happy life that exists.
  9. Lasting passion is entirely possible in love.
  10. The key moments in love are when partners open up and ask for what they need and the other partner responds.

Johnson, S. (2013). Ten Tips for a Strong Vibrant Relationship: Dr. Sue Johnson. Retrieved February 12, 2020, from https://www.drsuejohnson.com/ten-tips-for-a-strong-vibrant-relationship/

Coming this Summer

Workshops will be lead by Certified Gottman Method Couple Therapist Dr. Becky Rudd LMFT, LMHC, RPT-S, NCC. Registration information will be available in April. Space is very limited so watch for our registration link in April’s newsletter

Seven Principles for Making a Marriage Work: Evening and weekend classes available

The Seven Principles workshop is based on The New York Times bestseller The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, developed from Dr. Gottman’s four decades of research with more than 3,000 couples

Bringing Baby Home Workshop: Evenings and weekend classes available

Bringing Baby Home workshops prepare couples for life with baby and helps them be the best parenting team possible. In a relaxed and supportive environment, parents learn to strengthen their relationship and foster baby’s development during this challenging time. This workshop combines scientific research and public education to improve the quality of life for babies and children by strengthening their families. It teaches new parents how to gain relationship satisfaction and create healthy social, emotional, and intellectual development for their children. Visit the Gottman website to learn more about Dr. Gottman’s parenting research.