The Next Chapter: A Note from our Clinical Director
By Becky Rudd PhD, LMFT, LMHC, RPT-S, NCC
First, I want to thank you all for entrusting us with your care. Choosing a provider is one of the most daunting steps after the decision to seek counseling and I hope you continue to be confident in the decision you made.
As many of you know, we have recently expanded and moved to a larger location at the Summit Professional Building. This move fulfills a long-time dream of mine to create a group practice focused on providing compassionate care using evidence-based practices. My passion for research, knowledge and continued learning is the foundation for our mission and vision at Center for Solace (CFS). As many of you know, I am a tenured Associate Professor at Eastern Washington University in the Department of Psychology’s Master of Counseling program. Through this position, I gained the distinct advantage of teaching, assessing and mentoring a wide variety of students. When it came time to invite therapists to join my growing practice I looked back on the students I trained throughout the years and purposefully selected those who not only demonstrated excellent clinical conceptualization and skill, but shared my drive towards providing treatments that work. You can be assured that the therapists at CFS truly are the best and brightest.
As our practice has grown, it became clear that my roles as Clinical Director at CFS and Associate Professor at EWU both require a great amount of time, attention, and sole dedication which could no longer be done concurrently. After months of self-reflection and existential discovery I made the decision to resign my position at EWU to pursue my love of clinical work and mentoring here at CFS. While I will dearly miss teaching, I hope to fulfill my passion through adjunct work at local colleges, providing workshops in the community, and speaking at national and international conferences.
The average couple waits 6 years before they seek counseling for a troubled marriage. By that point, the toxic communication patterns are routine, the love you felt for your partner feels like you were blind, and no one could ever hurt you as much as your partner has. Your marriage, or partnership, is hands down one of the most difficult relationships in life. It requires continued compromise, understanding, patience and love, despite conflict. At the same time, it is one of the most important relationships in a person's life. If this sounds like your relationship we recommend you read the book The Seven Principles for Making a Marriage Work by John Gottman and Nan Silver. This book is available at our office for purchase.
2 Tips for renewed mental energy that work!
Get in the flow of life!
We are able to recharge or recoup mental energy by engaging in activities where we lose track of time. Identify an activity you enjoy, such as knitting, crafting, biking, hunting, boating etc., where your felt sense of time disappears. Psychologist call this “flow” or the state of focus that is energy-giving.
Balance sustained mental energy with mind-numbing activities
Granted there is a balance between too much of a good (or bad) thing. If you spend hours in a state of intense mental energy you are taxing your prefrontal cortex (the advanced, human-specific and slower part of the brain) and need to allow your brain to disengage. You can do this by engaging in activities that do not require sustained mental effort such as watching TV, reading, non-technical biking or cooking. It is difficult to think of life’s problems while engaging in these activities and provide your brain with a much needed break.